The Shiny Stone

Some time back, I was talking to ChatGPT about my parents. Not casually. I was in it. A startup had just failed, and I was trying to separate what I actually wanted from what I’d been carrying for them. The conversation went deeper than I expected, and at some point it said something that brought tears to my eyes.

I don’t need to succeed first to deserve love. But I will live my life in a way I recognize as my own.

I kept that line; I still think about it. Yes, I teared up at a chatbot. I know how that sounds. But what I’ve been turning over since isn’t the emotion—it’s that it came from an AI. If a machine can produce words that hit this hard, where does authenticity live? Not in the origin, but somewhere else.

This delta⁠1 is an attempt to figure out where.


Today, we treat authentic as a question of fact: genuine, original, verified. But its Greek root, authentikos2, points elsewhere: autos (self) + hentes (doer, actor). To act on one’s own authority. It asks nothing about truth or correctness. It simply asks: did this come from someone standing on their own ground?

You didn’t pick your parents, your mother tongue, or the city that shaped your idea of normal. You were dropped into all of it. Heidegger called this thrownness⁠3. Your ground isn’t something you build; it’s something you land on. Authenticity begins when you stop pretending that landing never happened.

Accepting it is hard because most of the time, no conscious choice is made. Before awareness sets in, you drift into the default voice—the one that says what “everyone” thinks, what “people” do, what “one” is supposed to want. It disguises itself as common sense, masking the norms of a specific culture or era. Heidegger called it das Man. Awareness is the precondition of choice: you can only choose once you hear that voice as a voice, not the way the world naturally sounds.

AI’s default output works the same way: it takes situated knowledge and flattens it into something that sounds like everyone and no one.

Benjamin noticed something similar about copies⁠4. A painting hanging in the church where it was made carries something a photograph of that painting does not. The photograph is accurate. It is not authentic. What the copy lacks is everything the original accumulated by being there: in that particular church, through those decades, before the people who stood in front of it. Benjamin called this quality aura.

AI generates without origin. No here. No now. No history of its own.

But my encounter with AI did have a here and now. I was in my study, carrying a fresh failure, asking questions shaped by a lifetime of expectations. The AI had my prompt, but not the life behind it. It didn’t know what losing a company feels like, or what decades of unspoken and spoken expectations weigh. I carried all of that. When the words landed, I was standing right where they could hit.

The words were the AI’s. The context was mine. It was the context that gave them weight.


Context has layers. Some are immediate: a line about patience landing the morning after an argument. Some go deeper: struggling with a product decision for months, then finding a passage on constraints that feels written just for you. The same page, six months earlier, was theory; now it’s an answer. And some layers are vast and invisible: the language you think in, the culture that trained your reflexes before you could name them, the era that dictates what feels urgent. These layers don’t sit in neat boxes; they bleed into one another.

There is a reason people say you had to be there. Knowledge is situated—it lives in bodies, rooms, and moments. Information is what we can extract and transmit. Context is everything left behind in the room. It stays with whoever was there.

Information is abundant; context is scarce. AI can surface any fact, but it cannot supply a life.


In What Is Life?, Schrödinger observed that life sustains itself by drawing in negative entropy⁠5—importing order from the environment to resist decay. Living is a continuous act of maintaining internal order.

Ideas work the same way.

AI opens the floodgates, drowning us in answers. It organizes text by pattern, not by what matters to you. When everything has equal weight, nothing has weight at all. That is the flatness of AI output: answers to every question, but none weighted for your life.

So you start choosing. You keep some things, let others pass. You move what matters closer, push what doesn’t further away. Sometimes that’s a mental act: holding an idea, letting it settle. Sometimes it’s physical: putting a book on your desk, pinning a note to the wall, rearranging a shelf. This act of choosing is curation—reducing entropy for yourself.

Right now, behind my desk, the books at eye level are about business and entrepreneurship. That’s my current focus. When I turn around, they catch my eye, a quiet reminder. A few months ago, that shelf held Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind and Meditations. Before that, when I was first trying to figure out how to build alongside AI, A Philosophy of Software Design and Working Effectively with Legacy Code lived on the desk itself, within arm’s reach.

The shelf is not storage; it is an argument about what matters right now. Each reorganization is an act of negentropy: pulling from the noise of the world to decide what sits closer. The arrangement shapes my attention, and attention shapes who I become.

It’s the same with reading. When a passage catches my attention, I star the margin. I clip a bookdart or fold the corner. Days or weeks later, I scan the passage into my app. Each step is a filter. The star says: this mattered in the moment. The scan says: it still matters now. The friction is the point—it forces a conscious choice.

“Ah, I found a shiny stone.”

That sentence is itself a negentropic act. Noticing something in the noise, picking it up, and giving it a place. Over time, those placements accumulate into an environment that belongs to no one else.


Steve Jobs said something in Make Something Wonderful6 that I keep returning to:

There’s lots of ways to be, as a person. And some people express their deep appreciation in different ways. But one of the ways that I believe people express their appreciation to the rest of humanity is to make something wonderful and put it out there.

And you never meet the people. You never shake their hands. You never hear their story or tell yours. But somehow, in the act of making something with a great deal of care and love, something’s transmitted there. And it’s a way of expressing to the rest of our species our deep appreciation. So we need to be true to who we are and remember what’s really important to us.

What is transmitted, I think, is context. Care is the signal.

To care is to curate—to choose what stays, what goes, and what matters. But while arranging a shelf or clipping quotes is curation turned inward, creating is curation turned outward. When you make something with care, you take the context you’ve gathered—the ideas, the references, the passages that caught you—and shape them into something new. Your context becomes legible to others. Someone encounters what you made, and maybe it reaches them. Not because of where it came from, but because of where they are when it arrives.

That is the full circuit: absorb from the world, curate what you keep, and create something to give back. Authenticity doesn’t live in any single step. It lives in the fact that you—standing on your ground, carrying your history—are the one doing it.


The books on my desk will change next month. The passages I keep will accumulate. The arrangement shifts as I shift. Authenticity is not a fixed state; it is a practice.

The shiny stone doesn’t matter because it’s rare. It matters because you picked it up.

  1. Delta is an iteration of, and record of, an internal state. See Δ 0001 On Essays.
  2. The Greek etymology of authentikos: from autos (self) + hentes (doer, being). See Etymonline’s “authentic” etymology.
  3. Heidegger’s concepts of thrownness (Geworfenheit) and das Man: see his discussion of thrownness and his discussion of das Man in Being and Time (1927).
  4. Benjamin’s concept of aura: see Walter Benjamin’s “The Work of Art in the Age of Mechanical Reproduction” (1935).
  5. Erwin Schrödinger’s *What Is Life?* (1944).
  6. Steve Jobs’s *Make Something Wonderful* (2023), compiled by the Steve Jobs Archive.